The Pressure to Marry (and Become an Instant Baby-Making Machine) 

‘So, when are you guys gonna have kids?’ My friend’s question hit me square between the eyes. To say I was surprised would have been an understatement. I was freshly engaged, not yet married. Was it normal to be pestered by baby-related questions the minute one got engaged?  Unfortunately, I am not alone in my […]

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Singledom in the Church 

‘So much of the church,’ said Desiree, ‘is about marriage.’  Desiree was giving a talk on singledom at C3 Ballina*, and I love that the first thing she does is acknowledge how much of church life is focused on and revolves around couples. (Disclaimer: Desiree also references my book, Surviving Singledom, so I am somewhat biased […]

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