Sex and Singledom

It’s hard not having sex when you’re single. Even when you’re a Christian. And even when you’re female.  I’ve heard Christians still have sex before marriage, they just wait longer than the non-Christian mainstream. And Christians utilise porn, both men and women. So Christians are thinking about sex, and having sex, despite the church’s teachings […]

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Childless People Have ‘Real Families’ Too

I constantly read online rhetoric about ‘working families’. All too often, this means two adults with children. It is the mainstream, the norm, the personification of the popular-yet-mythical ‘nuclear family’.  Of course, not all forms of family fall under this definition. Traditional assumptions view families as adults-plus-children, which excludes childless people and treats them as […]

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The Hope Series – Part 2: Singing

I have twice lost my voice to illness. Not just colds and flus either. I’m talking prolonged periods of hoarse talking, effortful breathing and painfully reduced singing ability. And those voice problems have not responded to the usual treatments.  That’s because my vocal problems have not been caused by the usual culprits: bad singing technique, […]

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Why I Don’t Mind Turning 40

Some people are terribly afraid of ageing. In my early twenties I travelled with a group of girls who were petrified of the big two-five. ‘I really struggled with turning twenty,’ one of them confided. ‘I don’t know how I’ll cope with being twenty-five.’  I was in my thirties at the time.  It baffled me […]

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