New Fear’s Resolutions

Diets. Exercise. Stressing less. Every year people resolve to eat better, get fit and look after themselves. They set goals – realistic or otherwise – that reveal their hopes for the year that lies ahead. But for some of us, the coming of the new year is not heralded by fireworks and champagne. It is […]

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Why I Love Book Signings

So, tomorrow I have another book signing. I love book signings. Not only do they afford me an opportunity to shop (especially relevant in the run-up to Christmas), they give me ample space for ministry. And it is not just about selling books. Don’t get me wrong. I like selling books. I like signing them […]

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Self-Partnered?

We have come a long way from the term “spinster”. Emma Watson’s recent self-description of herself as self-partnered,* instead of the more commonplace “single”, has garnered much social media attention. And so it should. Whether or not you like the term self-partnered (and it is not my favourite term – it honestly sounds like a […]

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A Response to the Christian “Man Drought”

A week ago, the ABC ran an article about the man drought apparent in Christian circles.* It was a good article. It touched on many truths of contemporary Christian singledom. It took me back to my own single days in my late twenties, when I too lost hope of ever marrying. In particular, three truths […]

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Problems of Perpetual Singledom

A single thirtysomething friend recently told me about their increasing sense of isolation. “All the people I used to hang out with, five years ago, are now married,” she lamented. “I no longer have any friends.” Apparently, when some people get married, they no longer hang out with their single friends. Something shifts in our […]

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Singledom – Or the Social Leper Syndrome, Part 2

A moment of inspiration After an agonising few years of self-doubt and frustration, it slowly dawned on me that maybe I was not alone. Maybe there were other Christians in their late twenties like me, unhappily single, alone, looking for support. Maybe there were resources out there for such singles and I just needed to […]

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Singledom – Or The Social Leper Syndrome, Part 1

I got married a little later in life. Ok, it wasn’t actually that late. I was twenty-nine years old. I can already hear the disbelieving laughter. “Twenty-nine? Come back and talk to me when you are fifty and still single!” I know, right? I am aware that, compared to most of society, twenty-nine does not […]

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The Waiting Room

I spent this morning in a waiting room. Not coz I had nothing better to do. And not coz there was anything wrong with me. Thank you kindly for asking. It was for my cat. Yes, the things you do for love. While I was waiting for my cat to be seen, I got thinking […]

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How I Wrote A Book

A lot of people ask me how I wrote my book, Surviving Singledom. The question comes up quite often at book signings in particular. So I thought I would share how Surviving Singledom came into existence in five easy steps. Disclaimer: All I can tell you is what I did. It worked for me. It […]

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Book on a Mission

She walked through the doors of Koorong and approached us. A familiar face. No name leapt to mind, but I knew I knew her. She smiled a shy smile and said she had previously purchased a copy of my book. “That’s right!” I exclaimed, recognition dawning. “How did you go with the book?” She told […]

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