Why I Write About Childlessness

I relate to the boy with the loaves and fish. In John 6, Jesus fed a crowd of five thousand people by taking an anonymous boy’s food, five loaves of bread and two fish, and handing it out. Not only was everyone satisfied, they had twelve baskets full of leftovers.  I feel like that as […]

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Why I Sing When I’m Sad

I was recently interviewed for the Childless and Christian online conference, and while listening back to myself (which can be both horrifying and reassuring), I was struck by how creativity can help us in our grief.  Five months ago, I was watching a movie when I was struck with an image of my daughter, the […]

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My Baby Book

Tomorrow is the launch of my new book, Surviving Childlessness. And it feels like I’m birthing a baby. (It’s possible to give birth, even when you are childless.)  This is not the only time I have felt like I have birthed something other than a biological child. When my first book was published, I felt the same way. […]

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My Prayer for You

There’s a lot of prayer involved in writing.  I pray when I write. It is my prayer that God will use my words, my turns of phrase, to reach people who need to hear from him.  Sometimes, when I write, I sense the Holy Spirit nudging me, prompting me to use certain language around the […]

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Leaving Legacies—Writing

‘Write with great care,’ exhorted my university professor, ‘because everything you write lasts for eternity. Once your words are written down somewhere, they are immortal.’  I was twenty-one years old when I heard those words, spoken by my psychology tutor. He was, of course, referring to the clinical notes and reports written by professional psychologists. […]

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