The lost tribe of childless women: A response

  Jody Day’s excellent TED talk on childlessness highlights the invisible grief experienced by those who will never have children. 1 in 4 Australians over 45 are childless. That’s a lot of us. And yet, we are not talking about the grief associated with losing something we never had. It can seem incomprehensible to those […]

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Lord Forgive Us

  In the past week I have received many comments from people about Pewsitter. The most memorable among these was the prayerful comment of a pastor: “Lord forgive us.” My reply to him was that I too feel convicted by Pewsitter about my spiritual state. In fact, every time I listen to Pewsitter, I get […]

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Pewsitter

[WARNING: Contains Satire. Consume responsibly.] Your typical local church is a great place to go. Yours probably has a Sunday School, comfy chairs and half-decent coffee. But some churches get it into their heads that it’s not enough for you to just attend. Some churches want more from you. Heck, some even go so far […]

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God Chaser

  I first heard this song “God Chaser”, by David and Nicole Binion, as a teenager. In the mid-90s, an era of kippers, nightclubbing and emergent R&B music, this song crept onto my radar. I was an eager adolescent at the time, firey about God and passionate about worshipping him. I listened to the lyrics […]

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I’ll Share this with the Team

As a counsellor I am, on very rare occasions, gifted with a token of gratitude from a client. Usually it is chocolates, cookies or something similar. When I receive such a gift, my normal response is, “Thank you; I’ll share this with the team.” Not only does my work team appreciate the sharing of edible […]

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Are We Too Happy?

A childless lady recently told me she has stopped going to church because all she heard about was “belief and trust”. She said that positivity has invaded the church and she no longer feels comfortable bearing her grief of childlessness there. My heart aches for her. It begs an important question: Can we be too […]

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A Platter of Platitudes

I was irked the other day to hear that a fellow childless lady had her childlessness described as “God’s will.” I don’t know if it was meant as an encouragement, but it sounded like the result was all kinds of unhelpful. To me, “It’s God’s will” comes across as a platitude. We do this, don’t […]

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Reflections on Otherhood

I recently watched a TED talk by Melanie Notkin, “Welcome to the Otherhood”[1]. Melanie spoke about the grief of being single without children. For Melanie, the grief was one of “circumstantial infertility,” that is, grief of not being able to have children because of her relationship status. One thing I liked about Melanie’s TED talk […]

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God as a Haven

    The Bible uses some lovely metaphors to describe God: God as a fountain of living water, Jesus as the bread of life, the Father as a mother. One of my favourite types of metaphors for God is the use of place. Here are a few quick examples: “I will say of the Lord, […]

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Writing “Haven”

  Three years ago I contracted salmonella poisoning in Europe. Exotic, right? I was hounded by relentless nausea for the first three days, accompanied by chills and other joys not appropriate for public consumption. Even though I started to get better after a few days, it is fair to say that I was not myself […]

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