Coping or Numbing?

‘You are coping so well,’ remarked my doctor. ‘Every time I see you, you’re always so positive and upbeat.’  ‘Maybe I should come in on a bad day!’ I shot back, laughing.  But his words made me think. What does ‘coping’ mean? How do people interpret my happy front or humour as coping—or do they […]

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Roller-Skate While You Can! 

‘I have decided,’ announced my psychologist/coach friend, Krystyna Kidson, ‘to make the most of things while I have them. To that end, I’m going to learn to roller-skate!’* We were discussing life with chronic illness and, in particular, I was lamenting the loss of predictability and control.  ‘How can I go on,’ I moaned, ‘when […]

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Stuck in the Middle

If you want a story with a happy ending—or indeed, any kind of ending—you’d better stop reading now.  This story, like an unfinished symphony, is incomplete. I am still living this story; I do not know how it ends. All I know is I am currently stuck in the middle of a seemingly endless stretch […]

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